The Wanderer’s Return

The last time we saw Candy, our calico cat who came to us 9 years ago, was when she went on walk-about on September 1.

This is the last photo I took of her, napping with her boy Taffy in their favorite place for nappage (the leather love seat in the den):


Last Friday, on November 18, Candy showed up on our back doorstep. She’s much thinner, very dirty, and very wary of us and the house. So far, in 7 days, she has not left the kitchen — her favorite spot is by the dining room door, from where she can keep the entire room and its hallyway entrance in sight:


It took me four days to get her to use this little towel, instead of curling up on the cold hard floor.

Baby steps. We’ll get her back, in baby steps.

I’m making my way back in baby steps. Very angry, very vengeful, very disgusted baby steps. I don’t have many positive thoughts to share lately, which is why I am keeping to myself these days. I am still pretty damn pissed off. And it just gets worse — how did I miss the news that Mike Pence was such a self-righteous pious-mouthed slime-ball ass-hatful-shit-stain?

Tea. I need tea:


That’s Taffy, posing with my big box 0’P G Tips tea (“240 lovely cups of tea”) and the quart-sized jar of honey we get from a local beekeeper who delivers that stuff to our door.

My best advise to you all, WonderOnes, is to treat yourselves to a good cup of tea as needed.

Taffy also advises, it’s better when you can share it with a friend:



13 Comments, RSS

  1. Elizabeth November 25, 2016 @ 3:42 pm

    Yes, PG Tips works…. a bit
    Such a good story about the cat’s return.
    Our Gomez once went missing for three weeks – long story
    but definitely came back.
    What’s so alarming about the political scene is that it’s quite head-spinning.
    We have not the least idea what the orange one will do next…..
    I miss Buster more and more.

  2. Deborah Hatt November 25, 2016 @ 4:24 pm

    I’m thankful your long-lost kitty at last found herself back at your door. She is just the medicine for your discouraged and disappointed soul, and you are just the one to restore her to health and happiness. You are both exactly what the other needs right now. Do both of you a favor, and turn off the news and network television. Picking at a wound only keeps it raw and festering, and before we know it, our entire being is tainted by its gall – hindering our ability to see even the most beautiful aspects of life. You are so greatly loved, my friend. Never forget what really matters — love, hope, joy, beauty, and a gentle heart.

    Happy Trails this week, dear Vivian.

  3. Kirra November 25, 2016 @ 6:44 pm

    Exactly! Tea with a friend is the best, and that honey sounds great. Thanks for coming back, and I’m glad Candy came back too.

    I find it hard watching the news from far away Australia sometimes, not sure how you can handle it actually in USA. Good luck, I hope you can all survive this horrible man and his colleagues. We will be providing moral support from afar!

  4. jeanie November 25, 2016 @ 10:24 pm

    Oh, that’s a good Thanksgiving story, the return of Candy. If anyone can ease her with baby steps back into your world, it will be you. Don’t you wonder what things she experienced? Maybe you don’t want to know…

    When you live one state north of the Pence, you know all about that guy and in a lot of ways he scares me more than the Great Pumpkin. His ideas are more radical but he comes off in a way that can make them seem — well, not sane — but not insane.

    It’s a grim time for us all. I especially hold the single issue voters — the second amendment or abortion or I Hate Hillary crowd personally responsible… Churlish, I know. But in this case, not unfair. At least to me.

    Hang tight, my friend. I can’t say this will pass or at least quickly. But you have a Candy-girl to bring back to the world.

  5. chel November 26, 2016 @ 12:21 am

    Candy returning is such good news. I hope she continues to do okay. Keep us posted.

    I’m in the middle of Trump-ville (like an evil Dr. Seuss alternate universe) where 79% of my town voted for him, so it’s like celebration city here in Florida. *hangs head in shame*

    I truly truly feel like we all slipped into a parallel universe in the middle of that night when the election swung and since then a part of me has been trying to find the tunnel to get the heck out. ‘Cause this HAS to be a joke. I grew up in NY in the 80’s and 90’s. Donald Trump is a character, he’s not real. Anyone who spent significant time in the NY tri-state area knows this. How is The Gold One suddenly president? Who is next, Pizza Rat? (I actually think Pizza Rat is a respectable creature, though.) How about that guy who used to speed walk around mid town, yanking his shirt up and rubbing his belly? Why not that guy? There’s a whole cast of NYC characters that could be president- why stop here?

    (I’m going to stop ranting now… argh. ARGH.)

  6. Becky November 26, 2016 @ 9:50 am

    I am so glad that Candy is home. I can only imagine the distress her disappearance must have caused you. But now she is home….time to cuddle her up and love her.
    Boy did you describe pence accurately. And that other piece of shit ….the groper in chief. I too am still furious and will NEVER refer to him as president. That should be an honor for someone of high moral character….not this scum bag. I too am from an area where he garnered a lotof votes, and it makes me sick to my soul. But I am more determined than ever to support groups that will fight him….as well as newspapers that will print the truth.
    My dog wants to play ball so I am off for tennis ball therapy!

  7. Megan November 26, 2016 @ 3:30 pm

    I am very glad to hear that Candy has returned home after a very long time away. I think it is very upsetting that she is so traumatised, but she has made her home in the kitchen so hopefully she will start to feel more confident and get over what ever horrors are tormenting her, hopefully Taffy and the others will help her readjust. She has you to help her along and you are a very kind person. I love Taffy with his leg resting on his mates back, the very essence of relaxation. I am sorry you have this mess of a government I don’t really know much about Pence. I think Trump was surprised he got voted in to office, I don’t know how he will cope with it, I think you should be worried about the people behind the scenes who will be running this show from now on. I think they are rubbing their hands together with glee. Maybe this will actually bring people together I was surprised at the vitriolic campaign. Glad I’m here and not there, desperate times. Hang in there, this too shall pass.

  8. ann November 26, 2016 @ 4:33 pm

    I wonder if she got trapped.

    My sweet husband was checking under the house to see if our humidifier was working.

    We went out of town for the weekend and heard low meows after we returned.

    Out came poor Fee’.

    Fee’ acted very strangely for while after this event.

    She kept going in and going out of the house continuously.

    She couldn’t feel comfortable either place.

    I’m glad Candy got home.

  9. Thea November 26, 2016 @ 5:30 pm

    Wow, you *are* mad! and you are not to be blamed. I’m mad too, sometimes beyond mad into despondent. My real friends too, and it’s hard to know what to say to them. You are the first I’ve communicated with. After reading three books and ALL the blog posts, how can you not be a friend. So, friends, tea, and furry creatures. So happy Candy is back, that’s she’s come inside and has accepted the towel. Such a sweet kitty she looks. And, of course, the name!
    I do believe your anger has lanced my own boil to the point I can think about emailing friends. I’m off to brew a small pot of Holiday Tea and brood on cordial if not conciliatory words. Thank you for that. I think that’s how we’re going to get through this, the days ahead.

  10. Rose C November 26, 2016 @ 10:52 pm

    This post on Facebook of a large plastic tub or bin reminded me of you and the care you’ve taken in creating weather shelters for cats. If link doesn’t work, the shelter is made from the container as mentioned. A cat bed is placed inside, looks like on top of some sort of moisture insulation. Then an opening flush to the top of the bed is cut in the side of the container to allow access inside. Some sort of flap keeps out the weather. The cover is secured to the top of the container to provide a protected enclosure. Cool idea. Photo link at

  11. Patricia November 27, 2016 @ 9:49 pm

    I was planning on hiding for the next four years. Wedging myself in behind a giant pile of books. Or traveling outside of the United States …
    Glad your kitty came home.

  12. Beth November 28, 2016 @ 2:40 pm

    Even red, red, RED Indiana (my home state, with which I have yet to make peace, though I’ll be returning there for a month-long visit at the end of the week) hated Mike Pence and were anxious to get rid of him. As a woman with LGBTQ friends and a brother who is a minority, he scares me a lot more than the guy with the guinea pig on his head. A lot more. And that’s saying something. I’m glad your kitty is back and has someone who loves her and knows how to meet her needs. This is, I’m afraid, what we all have to do for each other now: offer quiet comfort and cozy places to rest our troubled selves.

  13. Angela De Marco Manzi November 29, 2016 @ 8:41 am

    I am happy that your kitty returned. I am sorry that you are so troubled. You need to stop reading the news. Sometimes, when I get really upset, I read your book when Wanderers Cease to Roam. It makes me happy.

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